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The dance of anger: a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships. [Harriet Goldhor Lerner] -- The Dance of Anger is unique among self-help books, as it offers no false reassurances or shortcuts to change.
THE DANCE OF ANGER. It wasn’t an instant hit or heavily promoted. It had a small first printing with modest sales. Its readership was built by friends recommending it to friends, family members to family members, therapists to clients and to each other, and so on. A community of readers established itself around the book, the dream of any writer.

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'Anger is a signal and one worth listening to,' writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book,..more

Published May 3rd 2005 by William Morrow & Company (first published 1985)

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** A Life Changing Book **
Read years ago. This book made a huge impact on my life, and changed my life dramatically for the better.
The Dance of Anger, recommended by a therapist, will show the reader how to express anger -- and deal with anger being directed toward you -- without yelling, screaming, name calling, etc.
This was literally the first clue I ever got about how to express anger in a calm way and to actually RESOLVE an issue, without constantly exploding over it, or being the 'explodee'..more

Oct 18, 2008Kathrynn rated it liked it

Shelves: 2008, reviewed, own, nonfiction-self-improvement, nonfiction-relationships

I think this author produced a well-thought out book. It focuses on helping women move away from unproductive anger and learning to be angry with positive, effective results.
There is a section on women who don't 'allow' themselves to be angry that I didn't spend much time on because never felt I wasn't allowed to be angry. There is another portion on 'de-selfing' which involves a person (male/female) allowing another in their relationship to walk all over them and I didn't spent much time on thi..more

Dec 11, 2007Kathie M rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: anyone who feels like they're stuck and can stomach a self-help book

I know my friends are sick of hearing about her, but Harriet Lerner is a genius and my own personal guru (from afar). I never really thought I'd read a self-help book(especially one on relationships, eek), but I've re-read this one three times at different points in my life. The books (there's a Dance series) are easy to read, her case studies are good because the examples are ones that everyone can find in their own lives, and her advice is really sound. The basic premise is that if you're unha..more

May 25, 2008K rated it it was amazing

Recommends it for: Bowen therapists; women who want to improve their family relationships

Shelves: professionallit

Wow. This was a really great book, one which I appreciated on both a personal and a professional level. Written in a deceptively simple self-help/pop psych style, this book had the advantages of being highly readable, practical, and almost entertaining, appealing to a lay audience. At the same time, this book was based on solid Bowen theory and was far from superficial or facile.
This book clarified a lot of things for me that I've been working on with my supervisor, and has been helping me func..more

Aug 08, 2011Jeremy rated it really liked it

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Helpful book. Guys may be turned off due to the subtitle: 'A Woman's Guide..', but Lerner's principles aptly apply to men too. Also, anger may be the topic, but a healthier relationship is the goal. She helps break down how anger, instead of causing endless cycles of frustration, can be used as a tool to deepen our relationships with loved ones and to better understand our true selves.
Some stuff Lerner discusses: misconceptions of anger (ch 1); marital discord and breaking the cycle (ch 3; also..more

This book has been quoted to me for many years and my boss recently recommended it.
It is one of the first self help books on the topic and it took years of rejection for Harriet Lerner to get it published. While it is targeted to women, it applies to everyone.
I liked the opportunity to use anger to define self and I appreciated the context of societal roles by gender even though I tend to be more 'masculine' in my expression of anger.
The best part about the book is the simple how-to examples o..more

Aug 16, 2018Nastja Heinvere rated it really liked it

Shelves: non-fiction, self-development, psychology-related, relationships

This book was recommended to me by a therapist who supervises our group of counsellors. He told us that this book is incredibly helpful not only to his clients but also to mental health professionals who want to gain a better understanding of relationship problems and how to deal with them. I was intrigued and decided to remember the title, so I could read the book and find some useful information on how to counsel people with relationship and anger issues. For some reason I really didn't think..more

Apr 25, 2009Rebecca rated it really liked it

constantly re-reading this one since 2004.
seriously. this is a great book to keep on your bookshelves amongst literary fiction and a few aesthetically pleasing picture books..it really makes people do a double-take. ..even though they'd never admit it.
I actually love how awfully self-help this book looks.
If you get in fights with your mother--or your partner--or strangers (and maybe sometimes the fights stay in your head)..this is the book for you.
If I were a dancer I'd totally choreograph T..more

Mar 07, 2008Dana rated it really liked it

Excellent book for women of all walks to read!! It's not what it sounds like. I know we all are programmed away from anger. Anger is BAAAAAAD, right? Well, this is one of Harriet Lerner's fabulous books that teaches women how to use our emotions in a positive way to get our needs met. It's a book about boundaries and using our anger..recognizing it as a gps system. Our anger is valid and it is always telling us something.
This is not a book about venting or blowing off steam. It's a book about..more

Jul 10, 2014Rebecca Waring-Crane rated it it was amazing

A gem of a read especially for any woman who has ever been told, 'You shouldn't feel that way!'
'Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. Our anger may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated, that our needs or wants are not being adequately met, or simply that something is not right. Our anger may tell us that we are not addressing an important emotional issue in our lives, or that too much of our self -- our beliefs, values, desires, or ambitions -- is bei..more

Great book and a worthwhile read for women and men. From my own experience, I was battling my ex for over a year to get our divorce settled. After I read the book, I changed my approach from being more emotional and pursuing, to being more cool and detached. Within 3 weeks, we had our divorce settlement finalized and signed by lawyers. Why? Because the book taught me that if I want the opposite reaction of my partner, I had to do the opposite of what she was doing. And it worked perfectly!

when Kevin saw this on the table, he said 'oh, you're learning the polka?'

Dec 20, 2018Elizabeth Smart rated it really liked it

This one surprised me! It's from 1985 so I expected it to be wildly out of date, especially as it pertains to gender, but happily (also.. kinda sadly) it still feels extremely applicable to the modern day. I was particularly intrigued by the concept of de-selfing; I tend to be like, 'if I don't express my anger, nothing bad will happen' and Harriet Lerner is like, 'you will literally lose your sense of self.' With that in mind, expressing emotionally honest truths seems like a necessity. I will..more

May 24, 2018Rosemarie Donzanti rated it really liked it

My second reading of this book..first time was a very long time ago. Many great techniques for effectively setting boundaries with people, especially those closest to us. Now problem with self-help books is if you never practice what they preach then nothing gained. Trying a few things with Dad but he just laughs when I try to change things. Oh well, little by little, inch by inch I go.

Dec 29, 2018Jenny rated it it was amazing

I read this book some time in college, at the advice of a therapist. It cracked my entire world WIDE OPEN, in a way that few other books ever have since. Becoming comfortable with anger, accepting the shadows of the self, and learning how to advocate for myself in a healthy way—all that came from this book.

Feb 22, 2019Heather Slighter rated it it was amazing

This book really challenged my thoughts regarding my own anger. It is definitely a book I want to read again and begin implementing some of the steps. Loved this!

Jun 20, 2012Jess rated it it was amazing

When I started reading this, I couldn't put it down. I would recommend this book to pretty much everyone I meet. I read this book at least 3 years ago, and the lessons I learned from it on how to handle relationship issues and family drama I still recall and use now.
Although the book is written for a female target audience, the whole thing is applicable to people of both genders. Lerner does a fantastic job at including scenarios that are relevant to everyone, no matter how old they are, whether..more

Oct 25, 2018Bethany rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

This book was so much more than I expected. I’m an Enneagram 1 and have only recently recognized that I have chronic anger issues. This book helped me identify what lies beneath my chronic anger, and how it looks different in different relationships (spouse, family of origin, work). It gave me very practical tips for renovating deeply-held patterns, without giving me false hope that changing my relationships for the better would be a fast or easy process.
As I read, my list grew of people I’d li..more

Jan 09, 2009Angela rated it really liked it

This is a great book for anyone who's ever been, currently or will be angry with someone else. It will teach you how to better communicate your anger in more effective ways so that you can produce favorable results. In addition, it will teach you how to change your own behavior to influence someone else's behavior. Harriet's breakdown of the coveted triangle, where a third person becomes involved with a relationship between two other people, is helpful because it is applicable to everyone. Be wa..more

Jun 19, 2011khrome rated it liked it · review of another edition

There was a lot of good tips in this book, but they were buried within stories that were full of repetitious points. The writing style is what made this book hard to read. Most sections started with a story where I felt it should have started with a summary of the lesson to be learned. I found myself saying 'get to the point' a lot, and having to take a lot of breaks, whereas other well-organized psychology books kept me engaged. Otherwise, very good info if you can wade through it.

This was an exceptional read, one which involved a lot of notes and highlights.
I definitely struggled with feeling a bit chronically angry, being stuck between being a people pleaser and a bitch. I felt very powerless in my relationship with my mother and that anger would transfer to anyone who I felt took advantage of my kindness. As Harriet Lerner would put it, I am an overfunctioner, rushing in to save everyone even if that ended up draining me in the long run. And so, I felt frustrated.
The..more

Jul 05, 2015Belinda Missen rated it it was amazing

First book of the year down, and what a brilliant way to start of the year.
One of the aims of my 2018 book challenge is to read a wider range of non-fiction. Fiction is great for escapism and the sheer enjoyment of reading, but non-fiction is, obviously, a great learning tool. It's also something I haven't embraced as much as I should have.
So, I'm pleased to say that my first book of the year, #friendrecommendation, was The Dance of Anger, by Dr Harriet Lerner. It's one that's been recommended..more

Aug 14, 2017Linden rated it it was amazing

This has been recommended to me by a variety of people over the years, but I always resisted it. When I finally picked it up, I immediately regretted the decades-long delay. I would emphatically recommend it to anyone.
The main emphasis of this book is the behavioural cycles that pairs or triangles of people can find themselves in if they over- or under-act on their anger and conflicts. It is written for women, but the cycles are discussed from a variety of perspectives, including a male perspect..more

Brene Brown thinks every married couple should read this book. I don't think she's wrong. There are some really solid principles for application--and I liked that it doesn't dismiss anger as a legitimate emotion. Favorite take-away: Anger is good, when we can recognize what we are really angry about and have a determination to solve the actual problem. 'People' don't make us angry. We get angry because we don't clarify where we stand on the issue--we march off to battle without knowing what the..more

Down Girl: here is a detailed breakdown of how the patriarchy works, with a predictive hypothesis about under what circumstances people will get mad at women for doing A Thing and not at a man doing The Same Damn Thing.
Combahee River Collective: the systemic shit includes the patriarchy, white supremacy and capitalism. We know what the victory condition looks like in this struggle even if working out how to get there takes time and effort. When black women are free, it will mean everybody else i..more

Oct 27, 2018Alyssa rated it really liked it · review of another edition

Anger is not in and of itself a bad thing. It’s a feeling we have. But sometimes the way we handle it isn’t the most effective. This book did a great job showing examples of ways to better set boundaries, ask for what you need, and respond to others trying to lure you back into old behaviors. Incredibly helpful in all relationships.

Aug 18, 2018Adelaida Diaz-Roa rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

A must read for all, specially women! Even if you don’t consider yourself an angry person, this book is amazing. It will help you with any relationship and even if you’re the most calm person, it’s great to know why others may be reacting the way they are and what you can do to best manage that situation.

Recommended by a therapist I really found this book useful. I could see myself returning to it at several points in my life. The section about the 'de-selfing' we do in relationships in our lives was especially important. Might buy a copy so that I can annotate it later.

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Dr. Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. (Clinical Psychology, City University of New York; M.A. Educational Psychology, Columbia University Teachers College), was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, the second of two daughters. Her parents, Archie and Rose Goldhor, were both children of Russian-Jewish immigrant parents. They were high school graduates who wanted their daughters to 'be someone' at a time when..more

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